The Baby Scoop Era (from one who didn’t really live it)
So, the question becomes… Did the Baby Scoop Era (BSE) really happen? Well, here’s one way of looking at it. One generation is usually considered to be 20 to 25 years. I bet 90% of the adoptees who...
View ArticleStop and Listen
Too many people don’t care about adoptees. If they did, they wouldn’t be screaming at them that their feelings and point of view about THEIR OWN experiences are wrong. What is it about adoption that...
View ArticleYou can never get it back
This post is dedicated to Kathy. From the moment I left that Florida hospital and was placed in the arms of another mother, my life was forever changed. The life I was born to live, the life that would...
View ArticleHappy Birthday, Olivia
We can’t believe you are 5 today! Time goes by so fast. We hope your day is extra special and all your wishes come true.
View ArticleYou can never get it back– Part 2
I walked into my dining room and stopped dead in my tracks. This is the thought that came to me, “I’ve found both sides of my family. I know where I come from…But what did it get me?” And that’s when I...
View ArticleI’m Pissed!
As anyone who reads this blog knows; I could never get it back. I could never get back the life I was born to live. And how does that make me feel? Pissed! Yes, ladies and gentlemen, I am f***ing...
View ArticleChanging My Story
I took all of my posts down last week after someone told my husband the existence of this blog is the reason we are not allowed contact with our granddaughter. I did it trying to prove this blog is...
View ArticleA Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing
Adoption has been called many things. Its’ been called a win-win-win, the answer to an expectant mother’s prayers when she’s facing a crisis pregnancy, a way to save all the orphans of the world, and a...
View ArticleDusten Brown in the news
Once again, I have been brought to tears by the adoption story that has affected me like no other. Dusten Brown is in the news again giving his support to proposed changes in the ICWA so that the...
View ArticleUnwanted
Unwanted. Isn’t that really the key? Isn’t that what makes being adopted hurt so darn much? To think that you were unwanted by your own parents, by the very people who created you and brought you into...
View ArticleWhose Child is She, Anyway?
One of the reasons Veronica and Dusten Brown’s story has affected me so profoundly is because it epitomizes the change in mindset that adoption has undergone in the last 60 plus years. It strikes at...
View ArticleShe Changed My Life
Lorraine Dusky, that is. It was the early 1990s. As a result of some changes in my personal life, I became interested in learning more about adoption and about my hidden past. So I decided to go to the...
View ArticleWhose Child is He, Anyway? – Part 2
Just when I thought things couldn’t get any worse…they did. In an earlier post called Whose Child is She, Anyway?, I outlined what I consider to be the evolution of adoption practices throughout the...
View Article“Hole In My Heart” – An Adoptive Parent’s Perspective
Today, we have a guest post from an adoptive mother, Jay Iyer. Many of you are probably already familiar with Jay from the many insightful and supportive comments she leaves at one of our favorite...
View ArticleJake Strickland and the 21st Century Baby Scoop Era
“The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but by those who watch them without doing anything.” –Albert Einstein In case you haven’t heard. Jake Strickland lost his battle to keep his...
View ArticleHappy Birthday, Veronica!
Today, let’s all take a moment and think of Veronica Brown and wish her a very happy 6th birthday. She is one year closer to being able to make her own decision about who she considers her family and...
View ArticleThe Party Line
The party line for adopted persons goes something like this: “Your parents are the people who raised you. Your parents are the ones who were there when you were sick, who took of care of you, etc.” I...
View ArticleAdoption is no mystery to Dame Agatha Christie
“The popular idea that a child forgets easily is not an accurate one. Many people go right through life in the grip of an idea which has been impressed on them in very tender years.” –Agatha Christie...
View ArticleThe Unknown Past
The known past can be laid to rest. It may not be easy, it may cause pain, and it may even require professional help. But the past that is known can be dealt with; given the proper attention and the...
View ArticleSimplifying Adoption
There has been a lot of talk lately about the connection between adoption and abortion what with the storm brewing over Planned Parenthood and the social media campaigns #ShoutYourAbortion and...
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